Marriage Tips


I’ve noticed older couples with good marriages get along, for the most part, because they’ve hashed things out over the years. Either there’s been improvement or the other person decided it wasn’t important enough to argue about anymore.

As Christians, we’re told to love others as we love ourselves, so if we decide to do that, we’ll study our mate and try to do things we know that they really enjoy. I’ve done that here and there over the years, but lately I’m aware of some things that are not that difficult that I could have been doing and just didn’t, for whatever reason. I’m also more cognizant of nice things that my husband does for me and I’m trying to say thank you when I see it.

Plus, he changes over time, as I do, so the benefits of the new behaviors are a plus to our relationship. All of his life as an adult, he’s been in leadership and sometimes he just wants to do relaxing stuff. So, he started watching chefs and learned cooking techniques from programs available on television or online.

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If I’m preparing a meal and feeling the crunch of time, I’ll ask him to dice the onions and he’ll show me a way that is safe with the sharp knife and he keeps the rooted end in place for ease of cutting. The next thing I know, he’s asking if I need anything else chopped or sliced. If he hated that kind of thing, I wouldn’t ask unless I felt absolutely desperate, and then he’d have the right to refuse.

I heard Focus on the Family yesterday on the radio. I caught the tail end of the program on marriage and they showcased the next day’s program with a quote. A lady said, “I started looking for the good things that he does.”

I hope I’ll take the chance to hear the program online, they both sounded good. I hope this finds you well. Do you have any marriage tips that you can share with a family-friendly audience?

May God bless you!

To Speak or Not to Speak

I went to the library today to see a friend. Sometimes we get kidding around and then I second guess if I said the wrong thing. I think I should pray every time I interact in person or by text or on social media for God to put a guard on my lips and for clarity of communication.

Our Ladies’ Bible Study finished The Mind Connection by Joyce Meyer which I intend to give to our local library. We got the study book and that will help me if I want to reminisce about her points later on. She spoke of controlling our thoughts so we can control our words and ultimately our actions. I recommend it.

The Bible mentions quietness as an asset many times. For instance: Proverbs_17:28, (KJV) Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is esteemed a man of understanding.

Pro_18:6  A fool’s lips enter into contention, and his mouth calleth for strokes.

(Strokes in the eighteen hundreds meant hits or punishment of some sort.)

Pro_18:7  A fool’s mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul.

Pro_19:1  Better is the poor that walketh in his integrity, than he that is perverse in his lips, and is a fool.

Pro_23:9  Speak not in the ears of a fool: for he will despise the wisdom of thy words.

Exo_14:14  The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.

(When I looked up this word peace in a concordance it meant to be quiet.)

Ecc_9:17  The words of wise men are heard in quiet more than the cry of him that ruleth among fools.

This is a favorite verse of mine: 1Thessalonians_4:11 (KJV) And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you;

It’s a good reminder to me to stay out of the middle of things that are not my business, to do my own work, and to learn to be quiet. Quietness does not come easily to me. Sometimes my strengths can be my weaknesses. I appreciate verses about stilling my tongue, as in the book of James when it describes the tongue as being unruly. God helps people to control their words.

Be blessed and have hope in Jesus. He is perfect and He is love. I’m holding on to Him whenever I hear unsettling news.

Jesus Asks Us to Love, Not Hate

I didn’t intend to blog much tonight, but I checked my blog site and read a blog I follow called Daily (w)rite. She wrote about the children that were killed in Pakistan. As a girl growing up in India, she learned to hate the Pakistanis. She eloquently decries murdering innocent children and she feels deeply for the grieving families. I wrote a comment giving what I feel the Bible says about Jesus’ love for all of mankind and how He must cry when He sees us hurting one another.

Instead of building each other up and sacrificing our selves for others’ sake, we often live for ourselves first and foremost. I am as guilty as anyone. Our Wednesday night Bible study is covering 1 John 4 and other books in the Bible we chose, like Matthew 5:38-48, and 1 Corinthians 13. We decided they highlighted how to love God more and how to love others more, which is our focus for this study. We are talking about really loving others, especially those that are not as lovable to us as others might be. What does that look like in actuality? How do we live it?

We are also bringing in ingredients to make soup each week, and I’m finding the breaking of bread and working together in  the kitchen beforehand is creating an unexpected bond.

One of our participants accepted the Lord Jesus as his Lord and Savior in October and the Word of God is coming alive for him now. He is so eager to learn what the Bible has to say and he tells us he’s been delivered from addictions and sins that he’s lived with for many years. Not everyone has that experience. They may find some relief and then God helps them be set free of other burdens over time. Each person is unique. So this new believer asks questions that brings depth to our studies as we tell of our experiences over the years with God and His word, or we begin a search and learn along with him. His face radiates with the joy of a new life in Christ.

I intended to write a short ditty about receiving two copies of “Live Magazine” in the mail today. My article is featured on the cover of the January 11, 2015 issue. What a delightful surprise. Somehow it seems insignificant in the face of the heart-wrenching loss of precious children. I’m content with the byline, but hoping to comfort hurting people in Jesus’ name seems a much more appropriate use of blogging space and blogging time; Thanks for reading, if you made it this far. May God enrich your heart today.